Years ago, a New York Times reader asked if – as a parent – they should prioritize sleep or exercise? The response was that this is a false choice. As healthy humans, we need both. I ugly cried.
The colonel in my head said buck up, you’re just tired. The ice-cream connoisseur in me balked – the thought of getting up at an unreasonable hour to exercise was literally (and not millennial literally) painful. Wake up? For what? Exercise? Pfft.
Turns out my unreasonable blubbering, my fetal position, the tears, the pain, the inability to muster movement, the pint of Chubby Hubby awaiting my attention, my expanding love handles, etc., etc. all had scientific credibility and all led back to my lack of sleep.
But wait, you say! This email is supposed to be about parenting, yeah? Okay. Getting there. Matthew Walker's book on the science of Why We Sleep covers scientifically proven ways adequate sleep improves our lives while also explaining my drama-student reaction ☝️. I (and I think Walker) would argue sleep is fundamental to our ability to show up as parents and partners. Oh and our kid’s ability to thrive.
So, let’s all put on our sleep masks. Put in the ear plugs. Put down the Instagram machine. And Go. The F*ck. To Sleep. So that we may do the hard work of eating ice cream on the treadmill.
Why We Sleep was filled with so many compelling factoids (backed by 17k peer reviewed studies), that I opted for bullet points in three categories: physical health, brain health, and learning & creativity.
Physical Health:
Brain Health:
Learning and Creativity:
Here is the experts' advice on how to get better/more sleep 😴😴😴:
So, are you getting enough sleep? Are your kids getting enough sleep? Adults need EIGHT hours of sleep. The science of sleep has proven over and over that there are more people struck by lightning than those that require less than eight hours of sleep. Below are daily AAP sleep recommendations by age.
As Walker points out, if a pharmaceutical company were to come up with a drug that had all the benefits of sleep, it would be a trillion-dollar company. And while sleep is free, it is not always easy, there is the matter of working and laundry and getting those tiny humans to fall asleep; it is still much, much easier than the consequences of not sleeping.
If you want more from Walker, here is a quick podcast or his audiobook.
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